I love engineering games like that but I don’t believe any game will check all the boxes you want.

Like others here I vouch for Satisfactory Trucks and especially the Railways. You can go quite deep there if you want. Drones do the clipping and are bit too easy so skip them.

While not what you exactly wished I’d say give Transport Tycoon or rather OpenTTD a go. While not as pedantic with traffic as you hope you will have a blast of a time doing beautifully orchestrated trains, airports, ferries and trucks/busses and optimizing the routes from resources to consumers.

And to reiterate. I don’t believe a game exists that matches most of your wishes. I hope it will eventually!

I knew someone would mention joe! It was the first editor I was taught.