Personally I’m somewhere between 2 and 3 - I’ll engage in the distro sectarianism for the bit, sometimes on the side of one that isn’t even what I actually use, but I hate being an annoying proselytiser of anything, I hate dealing with the broad tent politics of the FOSS world, and I’m happy to engage with the community positively but I hate being any of the nasty stereotypes.
Yeah, I’m pretty similar. I use the particular Linux distro I do because it works and it gets out of my way and lets me use my computer the way I want to. Which Windows no longer does. I have nothing against people who choose to use it, I’m just no longer willing to fight with it myself and lately not very happy with the company that makes it. I see distro wars or dissing folks who still find Windows to suit their computing needs as utterly pointless, counterproductive, and antisocial behaviour.